My Rant on Ranting or Dear Quilting World… Tear Down That Wall

June 14, 2014 · 6 comments

I birthed 9 children. Each one is unique. They each have an equal piece of my heart but I cherish and appreciate their differences.
Which got me to thinking…
Why shouldn’t I look at the world with those same filters? I specifically want to address the Quilting community.

We each arrived to the quilting world in our own unique way. Our path is our own and the journey ahead belongs to us as well. Yet, there are similarities and foundational views we do share.

We love textiles. We love needles. We love thread. Throw in some paints, dyes, glues and tools. Similar to how each of us has a body, brain and soul, is it not?

Why is it then that we choose to dispute, criticize and condemn how another chooses to use the items we all love?
Why must there be personal attacks, rants and divisions?

I will not rehash the Modern -vs- Traditional -vs- Art -vs- whatever debates and rules… we’ve all read or heard them. What is sad is we take offense, dig in our heels and deepen the “Us and Them” divide. I am not saying that we should do away with the different streams in our community…diversity is beauty. What I am saying is… enough. Enough anger and exclusion. Enough forming teams to fight the other side. Instead, why not look for those brand new quilting babies that have just jumped in the water and help them swim? Give them the tools and the basics and allow them to find their own current. Take joy in the truth that they love the same fiber-y things as you and I and can create something in which they see beauty and meaning. Allow each other to enjoy one method or many.

Let’s encourage and support each other instead of building dams.
Dear Quilting World… Tear Down That Wall

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avatar 1 Susan Williams June 14, 2014 at 6:09 pm

I’m not IN the quilting world, so, I’ve got no dog in this hunt…but…
I’m certainly in the music world.
When it comes to the arts, everyone has an opinion, and we are all VERY opinionated about what we love.
Sometimes, the things that we love passionately, musically, seem endangered, by those who have studied or practiced less, or who are less technically skilled in areas we deem to be important.
But I DO hear what you’re saying, loud and clear.
And I DO believe that we owe it to the ones who come after us to remain open. To be encouraging, whenever possible.
That doesn’t mean we have to LIKE what some feel is “art”, but which is in not to our taste.
But we certainly don’t have to tear others down.
Because usually, when we tear others down, we are trying desperately to build ourselves up.
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avatar 2 MamaK June 14, 2014 at 10:10 pm

Being a musician I understand what you mean. I am addressing the mean opinions and hurtful disputes over what style is liked or isn’t. I do think we need to offer assistance and walk alongside to help teach proper technique (and be open to the varied techniques). After that we allow them to fly in the direction that is calling their heart.


avatar 3 Becky June 15, 2014 at 9:43 am

Who in the world have you been talking to?? Literally every person I’ve ever met in the quilting world, whether shop owners, teachers, or just other quilters, has been funny, kind, supportive, and welcoming. The overriding mood is delight at getting to discuss and share their craft with others. I’m not sure there is a schism among quilters; maybe you’re just hanging out with mean people. In which case, dump them already!


avatar 4 Maddie June 15, 2014 at 10:42 am


Good on you that your world in filled with such light and straight seams!.. I suspect you are are a quilter who is not part of larger quilting industry, but one of those lovely people who is enjoying all that many of us spend tireless hours pumping out day after day month after month.

I envy the crap out of you… I was there once and it would be a dream to go back but my passions have moved me life into one that is smack in the middle of this world. A place where some of the most vitreous mud slinging occurs that is for sure. You are right those people need to be dumped, there is no doubt about that but to think that this industry as a whole is safe from the strife that plagues other industries is just not true and Robyn hits it right on the nose.



avatar 5 Teri Lucas Terificreations June 18, 2014 at 9:29 pm

Growing up is hard work indeed. This is all part of the process for the quilting world. We in the “industry” have a great opportunity to learn and grow and lead and become something more.
There are moments where I have said unkind things not thinking, taken “sides” without knowing the details. The only thing I can do is learn, and talk about what needs to change and be open about the fact that *I* have to change.
*I* can change how I interact thereby leading by example.
Reality smacked me upside the head and reminded me that generosity of spirit and kindness goes a long way.
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avatar 6 Hollie June 24, 2014 at 5:19 pm

I heart you! Thank you for posting this!
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