Post QuiltCon Thoughts and Angst

I had a wonderful time. My mind and heart were on overload with inspiration, teachings, friends and wonderful people. It was an honor to have taken Jacquie Gering’s class “Building Bridges – Architecture Inspired”. It. Was. Amazing! I was so thrilled to finally meet her.
I have to be honest. This post will not be what I had envisioned it to be. I wanted to fill it with QuiltCon eye candy and wonderful reports. Believe me there was plenty of both and they left me on a fibery, artistic high.

Then… that happy bubble burst. POP! My happy quiltdom has become tainted. Perhaps I’m naive. Perhaps it has been this way for awhile. I suppose I just became more aware. Aware of the division amongst Quilters. An “Us and Them” attitude. Traditional Quilters -vs- Modern Quilters -vs- Art Quilters. It goes deeper than which direction we press our seams or if we use all cotton threads. It’s mean. It’s angry. It’s ugly. It is one thing to not like a form, a style or an expression. It is another to spew insults and hateful words that attack and question one’s character.

If you don’t like something that’s fine. We are entitled to our likes and dislikes. You can even express those opinions. What I believe you cannot and should not do is verbally (or physically) assault the person that created the thing you are approving or disapproving of. Is this the horrid downfall of social networking and electronic words? Expression of hate is so easy today… all you have to do is click “send”! You can even hit and run and stay anonymous. What an easy and unaccountable way to be self-righteous, judgmental and asinine.

My disillusion began with the reactions I read in regards to the “F*ck Cancer” and “F*ck” Quilts on display at QuiltCon. Actually it happened before the written comments. I observed a couple at QC stomping out of the exhibition hall stating how offended they were. That’s fine but I wonder if they read the description and stories behind the construction of those quilts? Then the comments on Facebook and Quilting lists exploded. If you want to read my response to those ugly comments click here.

I then heard about things getting petty and accusatory with the web based Golden Quilter Awards. Mean. Pointless.

So what am I trying to say? I guess maybe I am asking where is respect for the person behind the cloth and thread? Are we not all sharing the same passion for self-expression and a love of fiber, color and the ability to turn them into a creation all our own? Creations that come from deep inside. Creations that wake us at night begging us to “design it now!” We really are not that different…yet, the ways we express are…and that is good. It is so right that we bring our differences together to display an abundance of beauty. How boring it would be if we all acted, believed, and created in the same way. Let’s not dictate or censor. Please?


7 thoughts on “Post QuiltCon Thoughts and Angst

  1. avatarMaddie

    I have to believe that insecurity fuels much of this ugly response business. Those confident in their own vision and view point have no need to tear others down.

  2. avatarKatie

    I get so annoyed by people who seem to be easily offended. It’s like they are actively looking for things to take offense to.

    I went to Sewing Summit in October and likely won’t go to another event of that kind. There seemed to be such an element of hero worship. There are people out there who are worthy of praise, but every high profile blogger who cranks out quilt after quilt doesn’t deserve a standing O. Anyway, not really what you’re talking about but…….

  3. avatarMaryann P

    The Austin Quilt Guild had their Quilt show in the Fall of 2012 and also had a F – Cancer Quilt. The organizers were so offended that someone entered a Quilt with that wording that they told the quilter that if she didn’t cover a portion of the F – word, they would not hang the quilt. She obliged but the comments and insults being made were so upsetting. My Dad faced and beat cancer and in my opinion by doing so, he has earned the right to say whatever he wants to Cancer, including the F – bomb. Most people know someone or are related to someone that has had to face cancer. It’s an awful disease and I don’t see anything wrong with saying fuck cancer.

  4. avatarLynda

    It is such a society thing now to be unpleasant, rude and obnoxious. There are plenty of things I don’t like in this world, but I don’t feel the need to belittle or harangue the people responsible. I can express my dislike in a civilized manner. Now that doesn’t mean that whe I get away, I don’t explode, but I would never be rude to someone’s face. I guess it is just the Southern girl In me.

  5. avatarStephanie Forsyth

    The quilt world is always full of this crap, people being offended at things they could just ignore instead. Because, “fuck” is worse than cancer, right? I have a really hard time dealing with the “quilt world”, groups can be mean, judgmental and expect everyone else to adapt THEIR way of life. Bleah. Sorry for your bad experience.

  6. avatarTeri Lucas Terificreations

    This kind of reaction has been happening in the quilting community since Caryl Bryer Fallert started winning ribbons with her machine quilted quilts. In some ways we’ve come a long way in behaving better at quilt shows and in some ways not. Because we’re all human i don’t think we’ll ever live in an ideal world.
    There is an expectation across the quilting world for quilters to behave a certain way. When this expectation isn’t met then others get upset. This feels like a vicious and evil circle and it feels like we can’t get off this loop of craziness.
    We love quilting it’s why we do this. We can only control our own behavior and how we respond. And getting upset over their reaction is perfectly reasonable because these quilters missed out on something that while on the surface is quite ugly, deep down it’s quite beautiful. That’s their loss.
    Let’s place this then on them. Where it belongs.
    Let’s let them own their reaction and not allow that reaction to color our view of the quilting world.
    Let’s exercise our choice to be respectful of other quilt makers work – no matter how the quilt is made.
    So, Robyn, I’d love to see a post of what you loved from QuiltCon. What brought you life? What inspired you? What is it about this particular event that is driving your creative spirit?
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